Trainer & Coach Certification

Emotional Assertiveness

Join John Parr (MSc, CQSW,CMT) on
2-4 September in Bucharest, Romania

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The Emotional Assertiveness seminar provides participants
with the necessary skills:


To acquire a working knowledge of the Emotional Assertiveness Model


To understand the mechanisms responsible for our emotional issues, failures, and difficulties in relationships


To improve our ability to listen to our emotions, to understand them, to anticipate their impact on our lives and on our health and wellbeing


To deal with them in a healthy and authentic way


To improve our ability to build healthy, secure and meaningful bonds with others and improve our quality of life


To gain the four key qualities of emotional intelligence: Self-Awareness, Social-Awareness, Self-
Management and Relationship-Management

Each module is face-to-face and takes place over the course of 3 days. Seminars can be organised anywhere in the world.

Once completed, this programme enables you to:

Support the transformation of groups and communities to be functional, cooperative, respectful, and effective.
Earn an income by teaching emotional assertiveness within your own practice and holding your own trainer certification courses.

Become part of the TEAM Emotion community and gain access to trainer portal.

Get ongoing training, help and support, including building and marketing your own Emotional Assertiveness business.

MODULE ONE - Emotional Assertiveness Core Seminar - 3 DAYS


“In the long history of humankind (and animal kind, too) those who learned to collaborate and improvise most effectively have prevailed.”
― Charles Darwin

This module will facilitate you identifying, differentiating, and understanding your emotions. It clarifies the difference between healthy authentic expressions of emotion and the destructive and harmful expression of cover-up emotions.

You will develop means to express your authentic emotions in healthy ways to facilitate your management of conflict and the development of deeper relationships.

During the seminar you will have time together with your colleagues to explore the application of emotional intelligence in practice.

  • The place of emotions in human relationships
  • The nature of emotions; why we have them
    Emotion, and bodily sensations
  • Differentiation between healthy and unhealthy expression of emotion
  • Four dynamics: Self-awareness, Selfmanagement, Interpersonal-awareness, Relationship-management
  • Emotional cycles: healthy and unhealthy
  • Anger
  • Sadness
  • Fear
  • Joy
  • Love
  • Complex emotions
  • Managing emotions
  • Building relationships

    MODULE TWO - Emotional Assertiveness: Creating a place of safety - 3 DAYS


    “How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
    – Elizabeth Barrett Browning 1806 – 1861

    Emotional are integral to relationships and human relationships vary in intensity depending upon the depth of love we experience in each connection.

    How we manage our emotions depends upon how Emotionally Assertive we are, i.e. how well we manage our emotional interactions towards others.

    In this module we will review love in all its forms, we will heighten our awareness of the forms of love we give and take and clarify where we place our boundaries.

    We will also review Assertive Behaviour in general and develop some skills in expressing ourselves in win win ways to achieve
    healthy respectful relationship.

    As a trainer it is imperative that we can model the behaviours we are training; we need to “walk the talk.”

    • What’s love got to do with it?
    • The seven ancient words for love
    • Our levels of comfort and confidence in expressing, giving, and receiving love
    • Assertiveness Skills: six skills and one important
    • Where emotions fit in
    • Preparation for next session on emotions in working
    • There will be room to discuss, test out and practically
      experiment with the theory and practice of Emotional

      MODULE THREE - Emotional Assertiveness: Creating a place of safety - 3 DAYS


      “…feelings can’t be ignored, no matter how
      unjust or ungrateful they seem.”
      ― Anne Frank, The Diary of a Young Girl

      Emotional issues have their origin in our childhood. The goal of this module is to understand the origin of unhelpful cycles and to replace those cycles with healthy behaviours.

      This module will facilitate your development of skills for creating a place of safety where your clients will be enabled to experiment with their authentic emotions.

      This module will allow the trainer/coach therapist to select and make appropriate interactions with their clients, trainees, and everyday relationships.

      • Basic child development theory, defense mechanisms drawn from KJ Kaplan TILT model (Teaching Individuals to Live Together)
      • Relational approach and withdrawal behaviours
      • TILT compared with E Berne theory of Group
      • Imago and B Tuckman, Group Development Theory
      • Group Dynamics, in Families, Teams, and all human endeavor.
      • Where emotions fit in.
      • There will be room to discuss, test out and practically experiment with the theory and practice of Emotional Assertiveness

        MODULE FOUR - Autonomy: Awareness, spontaneity and the capacity for Intimacy - 3 DAYS


        “Feel, he told himself, feel, feel, feel. Even if what you feel is pain, only let yourself feel.” ―
        P.D. James, The Children of Men

        Self-awareness and Relationship-awareness are two of the four cornerstones of Emotional Assertiveness. The other two are, Self-management and Interpersonal-relationship-management, i.e. the social aspect of E.A.

        In this module we will pull together the elements of Emotional Assertiveness and you will be invited to explore your own
        personal limits.

        This will help you model managing emotional connectivity through the expression of healthy emotions within the context of your training groups.


        It is an exploration of self in the context of emotions and closeness, to facilitate you being congruent with your feelings and their expression.

        This will also help you to develop yourself as a ‘tool’ to authentically express self in interpersonal relationships.

        During the seminar we will share some safe experiments to become increasingly in touch with our ‘real self’, discover our learned vulnerability and practice taking the risk to feel vulnerable whilst being open with others. This applies in both one to one and within groups. This is an exercise in deepening our

        Autonomy in this context is defined as Awareness, Spontaneity, and the capacity for Intimacy. (Intimacy: the ability to meet others in our uncensored self: to be real with each other.)

        We will conclude with the certification process.

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          JOHN PARR MSc

          JOHN PARR MSc

          Certifying Master Trainer (Emotional Assertiveness & PCM)


          John: has worked for over thirty- s i x years as a management consultant for
          multinational organisations and specialises in designing tailor-made training
          solutions for his client companies. He is recognised for his work in Emotional
          Intelligence, Stress Management and Communication Skills. Applied Emotional
          Intelligence was the subject of his master’s degree dissertation and he has developed this
          unique model for teaching Emotional Assertiveness (Applied Emotional Intelligence)
          John’s key focus is on developing human relationships in the workplace, personal
          life, and for training children in the skills.