Adopting the role of Victim: The Blame Game in Relationships 🎭 

  

Shifting blame and assuming the role of the victim might seem like a way to protect ourselves, however it often invites resentment leading to creating distance in relationships. It sends the message:  

  

“It’s not me, it’s you” – inviting one person to experience being burdened with responsibility and the other confirming their helplessness.  

  

Over time, this behaviour will erode trust, fuel misunderstanding, and prevent authentic emotional connection.  

  

Why?  

  

Because it bypasses ownership of our authentic emotions and actions, which are essential for healthy communication and relationships.  

  

💡 What can we do instead?  

  

The Emotional Assertiveness Model teaches us to understand and express our emotions responsibly. By owning how we feel, we empower ourselves and our relationships to thrive.  

Give-up blaming and exhibit realistic responsibility, abandon helplessness, and assume emotional accountability. True strength lies in saying:  

  

“This is how I feel, and this is what I want.”  

  

Ready to explore this further?  

  

Join us on the next Emotional Assertiveness Core Seminar Training taking place in the UK in 2025 – register your interest here.  

  

If you can’t wait, buy our book Fore-Play, Fair-Play and Foul-Play.